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Curried Beef Short Ribs

Note: I found this was more realistically four servings.

Finishing this dish with lime zest and juice brightens its rich flavors.

Yield 6 servings (serving size: about 3 ounces ribs, 2/3 cup rice, and about 2 1/2 tablespoons sauce)

2 teaspoons canola oil
2 pounds ...continue reading

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Nothing About Your Coming Was Accidental

This is an excerpt from a truly beautiful post from a father to his daughter. The whole post is long but worth every minute. A true inspiration to every parent who has wondered if they have what it takes to tackle the hard stuff. And a great way to remember what is important is what you teach your children through your words and actions.

"I know that you fear many things. Fear itself is not necessarily a bad thing. It can teach you caution. It can motivate you. It can make you realize what is most important to you. People who have nothing to fear also have nothing to live for.

But fear can be a handicap when we let it limit us, KatyBeth. And your mother and I promised ourselves, and you, that the only handicaps you'd have would be the ones that absolutely cannot be overcome.

And fear can be overcome.

You master your fear in the same way you have mastered everything else - by facing it, and refusing to quit until you've won. The willpower that helped you to crawl, and walk, and talk, and everything else you do that the odds said you couldn't, is the same willpower that will help you master fear. Trust me when I say this, the things you fear will never hurt you as much as the limitations you accept for yourself by not trying.

There are people, even those who love you, who would encourage you to accept those limitations, because they also fear. They fear you being hurt, or experiencing disappointment. They mean well, and they would protect you if they could.

Don't listen to them. Don't let their fears become yours.

Fear tempered with common sense and discipline equals caution, and caution is a good thing. We want you to be cautious. But unreasoning fear will cause you more harm than snakes, or loud noises, or big dogs, or rambunctious kids ever can.

In your life, you're going to fall down. You're going to be hit. You're going to get bitten. Mean kids will say cruel things. Boyfriends will break your heart.

But those things can never really hurt you unless you allow fear to convince you not to get back up, or defend yourself, or shun every dog you encounter, or refuse to dance because some little punk made fun of your funky moves. And when it comes to heartbreaking boyfriends, you leave them to me. I've got guns, acreage and a backhoe. After the first one disappears mysteriously, every suitor after that will treat you like a queen."

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