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Alisa. 37. New Hampshire. Married for almost three years to this wonderful, funny, smart guy. Previously married. Went through in-vitro fertilization to have my five year old magical son Keegan. Stepmother to the charming Isabelle (6). Gushingly in love with our baby boy Harper(1). Policy Wonk and dreaded bureaucrat. Lover of fine cuisine, honeybees, truly romantic moments and the underdog.
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Curried Beef Short Ribs

Note: I found this was more realistically four servings.

Finishing this dish with lime zest and juice brightens its rich flavors.

Yield 6 servings (serving size: about 3 ounces ribs, 2/3 cup rice, and about 2 1/2 tablespoons sauce)

2 teaspoons canola oil
2 pounds ...continue reading

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Slippery Slope

Tom's parents came up to visit Keegan this weekend. He swam at their hotel pool Friday afternoon and then we got dinner and ice cream at our favorite outdoor place. Saturday he rode his bike and showed them the neighborhood and then we went mini-golfing. He didn't stay entirely focused but liked to hit the ball into the hole and loved being in charge of holding the flags. After his nap he swam at the hotel pool again and my parents came up to have dinner with us. Sunday we went up to visit their relatives in Maine. Keegan rode their property in a golf cart and flew a kite and went pretend fishing with a stick and basically had a great time. On the way home we picked up Isabelle and then the kids rode bikes while we walked the dogs. Tom's parents left right before dinner time.
Sounds like a good time. But under it all were so many factors. Most importantly the in-law factor, the divorce factor and the grief factor. And unfortunately they added up to a not good time for the adults involved. I don't know what to do with the situation right now. We're definitely at a standstill and some time and space is needed before we take the next steps. Bearing in mind the tremendous grief they are experiencing. Bearing in mind that I and my family need to be respected. And things were said. Things that were like what used to be said to me when I was married to Tom. But now they are even deeper because they are also colored by loss and pain. I have a responsiblity to maintain the relationship for Keegan. I have a responsiblity to protect my family and myself from the stress and emotional bombs. I have absolutely no ideas on how to move on from here. I called for my referral for counseling today. I am out of my league here.

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