Tom's parents sent up a box for Easter. They do this most holidays. In fact they always did it even before we had Keegan. There are several really nice things about this now. It keeps the connection for Keegan who doesn't get to see them as often as he would like because they live in PA. In a way they get to celebrate with us. This time like Christmas and Valentine's they also included packages for Isabelle. It means so much to me that they recognize and embrace my family. And finally, they put in very little candy. This is a huge deal for them because it is their practice to spoil the ones they love with treats. I love that they respect my feelings about candy and junk food with Keegan.
There is a whole different relationship now with Tom gone. I know they always loved me and I will love them forever. But being the surviving parent of their grandchild is an entirely different dynamic than being the ex-wife. We can remember Tom together, laugh and cry. We can all help to raise Keegan and tell him stories of his daddy. I love the idea of a big inclusive family loving, protecting and teaching my son.