So Tom and I always had this plan about having a family. Get married spend some time together as a couple. Get established in our careers and for me to get my Master's. Get a house and be financially secure. Plan for the future with retirement plans and savings. Have kids and never be those people that had to worry about money. Sure the kids part didn't go exactly as we planned but that's okay. This is clearly the time and this is the baby I was meant to have. Except I never counted on being unemployed. The closer I get to giving birth the more I worry about when my unemployment checks stop in a few weeks. I worry about how much even just the basics for a baby cost. I worry about having to go back to work before I am ready because we'll need the money. I think about the time in my life before when I no longer worried about money. I can hardly remember how secure that felt. I feel guilty because it's my fault we are in this position. So we followed the plan and made all the smart choices. Here I am no better off then if I'd had a baby ten years ago. Now that's irony for you.
Sorry, I am not having a good night.
Alisa. 37. New Hampshire. Married for almost three years to this wonderful, funny, smart guy. Previously married. Went through in-vitro fertilization to have my five year old magical son Keegan. Stepmother to the charming Isabelle (6). Gushingly in love with our baby boy Harper(1). Policy Wonk and dreaded bureaucrat. Lover of fine cuisine, honeybees, truly romantic moments and the underdog.
Curried Beef Short Ribs
Note: I found this was more realistically four servings.
Finishing this dish with lime zest and juice brightens its rich flavors.
Yield 6 servings (serving size: about 3 ounces ribs, 2/3 cup rice, and about 2 1/2 tablespoons sauce)
2 teaspoons canola oil
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Hang in there, girl. I'm relating to what you're saying on a whole lot of levels. Timmy and I were the same way - get married, enjoy some time together, tackle the infertility bug once we were settled and had the finances to not only cover the medical costs but also baby costs... well, Maya had plans of her own, apparently, and here we are in a VERY inopportune position to be having this little darling. But, I'm drawing alot on the faith that things *will* work out, and they will! Try to hang in there... my thoughts & love are with you!
things *will* work out. Folks did it on a lot less than the both of you have and they survived. You will too! It's amazing how resourceful people can be when they need to be! Hang in there and chin up, beautiful ladies!
I've been reading your blog for a while now, but haven't had too much to say-but now I do.
I get how you are feeling. I am sure it will work out, but at the same time, I think about the same things. We've been putting off having kids, and Hubby's getting antsy. We just moved to a new state, I don't have a permanent job (I'm subbing, with a steady job until at least January), and I don't think anyone will hire me if I waddle into the office 7 months pregnant. Which means not working-which we can't afford. But to get a job and then have to take leave-the timing makes no sense either way. If Hubby didn't have the mad spending habits that he does, I might consider staying home for a year to do the baby thing...And the thing is, I kind of put ourselves in this spot-granted, the move was because of him and his job, but if we had just had kids sooner, this might not be the issue that it is. The clock's ticking, and we just don't know what to do. I am sure it will work out for you-because at the end of the day, job or no job-you will have something very precious.
when I got preggers with the G-man I was 25, alone, 3000 miles from home and working as a waitress in a tourist town, off-season. That first month, when the stick turned blue, I made $300 tips and salary.
While I was pregnant, I flew from Washington State to D.C. twice to interview for jobs, 7 months pregnant. One of the interviewers simply thought I was fat and offered me a freelance gig for $25 an hour. I told him I was working on a design project, and would relocate to D.C. as soon as I 'pushed it out.' I moved cross-country and started my new job when G was 4 weeks old. We were living in a vacation trailer in my college roommate's parent's driveway. Complete with propane heat and an extention cord running into the house for electricity. No running water.
You've met the G-man. He's a healthy happy kid. I have a few more gray hairs for having him, but I wouldn't change a thing. You cannot plan your life and live uneventfully, albeit peacefully, until you die. That's not what we're here for. The challenges you face now will be the funny anecdotes you tell in ten years. Enjoy the ride, and take notes!
Girlfriend, don't worry about the benjamins. Everything works out...you should know, you've told me so on numerous occasions. I agree w/ Mel, you're probably the most resourceful person I know. So enjoy this time, roll w/ the hormones, and save your concerns for stuff like how you're feeling and Peanut.
Hey Alisa! Like everyone else said, things DO eventually work out. I never ever thought we would be alright finacially when I was 18 (hubby was 19) and found myself pregnant living with the parents. Now here I am almost 30 with 4 kids and we are doing a whole lot better finacially today than we were 10+ years ago......So yeah things do work out and just go with the flow girl:O) Enjoy your pregnancy and try not to worry to much!